Your Personal Relationships

Marriage is a relationship.
Are you in that kind of relationship?
What is a strong relationship?
To strengthen your relationship and to keep it strong, try some of the following:
a) Experiment with ways of speaking with each other. I recommend a soft respectful voice and eye contact.
b) Be more aware of the activities you share. Talk over the way you are doing what you are doing and how you feel about it. You might find yourselves working together more effectively.
c) Listen to your partner and ask questions about anything that either of you might have misunderstood. Be willing to talk about it and make time to do so.
d) Figure out, together, whether the way you are doing things is fair. Aim toward ways of doing things that feel fair to both of you.
e) Neither of you has to do anything and that you can choose to change something.
f) It's good to return to an area of conversation. Avoid all blaming, shaming, and fault finding. Consider your own responsibility.
g) Remember that this try is no more, or less, than a step along the way.
h) Hugs, kisses, smiles, and chuckles are usually just fine. Laughing together is wonderful.
i) It is important to find a way to talk it over. Keep trying; both of you.

Young Couple

Your contentment as a couple can get better by using a bit of a dialogue process I call Equality. It's a serious process, but it feels game-like to some. Couples usually feel comfortable with it.


To begin each partner takes five similar pieces of paper and writes a word on each of them. Each piece of paper will contain one word. Each word will be different from the other. Then the pieces of paper are folded and put in a bag or some other container. Later, one piece of paper will be drawn from the container and read aloud. 


The words are best if they relate in some way to your relationship. However, it is not necessary that they do so. Words like: baby, father, sex, wife, play, relationship, work, money, fun or any other words you choose are okay.


Partner one draws one of the ten pieces of folded paper from the container and gives it to partner two to read. Partner two reads the word and partner one takes about a minute to say what he/she is reminded of by it. Partner one can say what he or she feels about the word or may define it. After partner one takes a minute to talk about the word (its good to use a timer), partner two talks about the word or about what partner one has said about the word. After partner two talks for a minute its time for partner one to talk for another minute. They continue talking by turns of a minute each until they have nothing more to say about the word at the time. Then partner two draws a word and gives it to partner one to read and they continue as before.


It is usually good to set a time limit of between twenty minutes and a hour. It is better to set a limit that is too short rather than too long. One session may be fun, but it takes five or six or more to be really helpful.


Remember to talk about the word that is drawn and never about each other.


Be kind, play fair, and be honest. BE HONEST.


Let me know how it is working out.

Affirmations Here

~ I am ready and willing to learn to act more gently and generously with myself here.
~ I am ready and willing to learn to act more gently and generously with another here.
~ I continue to affirm goodness and reality in my life here.
~ I am ready and willing to better nurture goodness and reality in my life here.
~ I am ready and willing to learn to more clearly see the value of this personal relationship here.
~ I am ready and willing to learn to enjoy ongoing healing here.
~ My clarity about the details helps me to move forward more effectively here.
~ I am grateful for my growing consciousness here.
~ I am ready and willing to learn to bring another motive to consciousness here.
~ I am ready and willing to learn an excellent habit here.
~ I am ready and willing to practice a good habit this year.